I'll be honest. There are two things on my mind right now:
Colorado Springs and Salt Lake City. (I know, it doesn't look like much of a difference).
We are finally at the point where a real job is in sight. As in like 10 months away. But the choice about where we will be in 10 months is about one week away.
And I am still stumped.
We have been at an impasse for about a month. We never thought there would be a job opportunity in Utah. So we never really had our sights set on it. We've known for a little while that there was a good job opportunity in Colorado Springs and had that in the back of our minds. Then something came up in Utah. Now we don't know what to do.
The job in Colorado Springs is probably a good fit for Ryan. They seem to think the way he does, run a business and work efficiently in the way he likes. But I'm not sure I love the place. It's hard to tell when you have a day and a half and your husband is telling you to decide if you want to live and raise a family there for the rest of your life. The houses were crammed together, yards were small, and believe it or not, I was dying for Utah to see some greenery it was so dry. I worry that I'm just going to be all on my own like I have been for years now and it gets lonely.
Then there's Utah. Family. Lots of it, for both of us. A place we know we both like. But a job that may require a little more time away from family, a little more travel for work, and a market that is more saturated. But still a great opportunity and a nice couple of guys to work with. (Although it seems that rather frequently when he talks to them in the evening they're not done with work or heading back in for another surgery.) Utah seems a little better developed, lots of great things to do, and ski mountains are right at your back door. Colorado they're about 2 hours away - but the two hours away takes you to great places like Vail and Breckenridge. Both jobs just have enough pluses and minuses that they just seem to cancel each other out and keep bringing us around in circles to where we are back at no decision.
Trying to sway our decision, my sister-in-law sent me
this article about Utah being poised to be the best state to live in. But when I opened the article, Utah was number 1, Minnesota was number 2, and Colorado was number 3. Great - the three places we were considering for jobs. No wonder it was such a hard decision. Luckily the Minnesota job was taken by our good friend here at least narrowing it down to two. But good grief, I can't even decide what shirt to wear in the morning let alone where to live for the rest of my life.
For a while it seemed I was pining for Utah and he was happy with the job in Colorado. Then when we thought we were getting closer to making a decision it turned out we flip-flopped. Probably him realizing happy wife = happy family, and me thinking grumpy husband = miserable family.
I know, people say we'll just know where we should be and it will just feel right. Well, what if that hasn't happened after 4 months of thinking and praying about this and I'm getting down to the wire??
So. Any thoughts? Opinions? Please, weigh in. Job where we'd love to live or live where the job is more cushy? Spend your vacations in Utah visiting family or live by family and spend your vacations elsewhere? Be adventurous and try somewhere new or let our kids grow up by their cousins in a place we know we like? I'm all ears.