What do you do when you have a child who is a total pansy?? I'm just not sure. I'm actually not even sure that's the only issue. But as I watch other well-adjusted kids play, smile, be nice to others, get excited for fun activities - well, it makes me think my child doesn't really fit in that well-adjusted category. :)
Anyone who knows Cash will say he's the sweetest little boy. He is. Around others. Because he doesn't say a word, doesn't cause a lick of trouble, and won't terrorize your house or your children. He's too shy to do otherwise. But. When he's at home, he's the most stubborn little kid I have ever met, and he cries about everything. He cries taking his pajamas off. He cries when we have to put them on. He cries when it's lunchtime. He cries when we have to go anywhere. Even if I say we're going somewhere fun. "I. DON'T. WANT. TO. GO. TO. THE. PARK. MOM. MEEEEE." Exactly like that. Every word exaggerated into it's own sentence with a slightly growling yell. My favorite is actually anytime the babies come near him or look like they might take his toys: "YOU. DON'T. WANT. IT. BAY. BEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!" And the growling is even more ferocious.
For one thing, I think he just really hates changing from any activity to another. I give him notice - 5 minutes until... 2 more minutes then we have to.... Doesn't seem to matter. "No. NO. NOOOOO!!!!" Wearing the wrong clothes is cause for complete meltdown. Singing the wrong song produces screaming. Leaving the house is a mess. He sobs and sobs when he's been put to bed and when I come in, he stops and very daintily says, "I need a tissue." And you should see bathtime. Oh bathtime. He refuses to sit down, so after we drag him in kicking and screaming, he just stands in the tub next to twins and shrieks the entire time. So since he won't cooperate, we just have to dump buckets of water over him, which of course enflames him even more. Which causes more chaos and gets the twins agitated too. And then we pull him out still kicking and screaming. Could it be any more unpleasant? I guess all three could be like that in the bath, huh? But the thing is, actually, we can't get the twins to sit in the tub either, so we have three standing kids in the tub most of the time, or we have Cash shrieking while we keep trying to get the twins to sit down. Last time we even got a huge chin bruise on Ashton from the refusing to sit down and slipping in the tub while Phoenix was slipping the other direction at the same time. All to the tune of the wailing older brother. What a disaster.
So now we started swimming lessons for two weeks while we're here at my mom's house. I knew exactly how it would be, so I sent my mom to take him down the first time thinking he would be less clingy with her. I knew it was a bad sign when I get there at the end and see my mom and nephew sitting in there by the swimmers - parents aren't allowed to watch. Then as he's getting out I hear them telling him, "No crying tomorrow Cash, ok? No crying." Apparently he screamed. And screamed. And screamed. Until they finally asked grandma to come back. And the teacher had to hold the crying kid forever.
Unfortunately, today - day two was just the same. One of the nice boys in his class even tried to talk to him before class. He and his mom were trying to be so friendly and talk to Cash who refused to talk back. (And most of you have seen the stare-down and the sideways glances he can give.) The nice little boy even said, "I'm Lucas." At which point Cash just sat back and closed his eyes. What? Playing dead? I'm asleep I can't hear you? Who does that? See what I mean about not fitting in to that well-adjusted category?!
Anyway, I really don't feel like we baby him. He does plenty of crying when we just try to ignore him and goes and spends time in time-out. It also worries me because he's going to have athletic, outgoing, normal brothers to overshadow him! I'm definitely up for suggestions. I just never really know what to do since he's my first. How do you raise a kid that's not a total wimp? I'm really hoping that being so strong willed is going to turn into a positive trait someday. "I. DON'T. WANT. DRUGS. STOO. PID!!" I can always hope, right?