Tuesday, February 17, 2009

Black tie



Ok guys. I just found out that in less than a month, Ryan has a black tie event - some fundraising gala with lots of rich people that we're going to. $450 a ticket. (Unless you're a poor resident, thankfully.) Even Leslie Nielsen (the guy from Airplane and stuff) is going to be there.

SO.

What on earth do I wear???

I'm very excited - it's my first black tie event. And really, how many of these do you get a chance to go to? (Ok, well this may happen every year we're here, which I only realized after I decided that I was ok spending some money to get a good dress with the excuse that I may never go to one again.) But when Ryan graduated from med school and we went to dinner at the Waldorf with his class, I went cheap. And looking back at the pictures now, even though I thought I looked cute at the time, I'm like eh. Not great. I should have spent more to get something that would have been a knockout dress.

So where do I find a dress? A cute one? That doesn't cost a million dollars but looks like it might? And (here comes the mood-kill) one that is modest? I was down in South Beach on Friday night and I swear I saw so much flesh. I don't understand how women aren't uncomfortable just letting it all hang out. Well, I am. You've probably noticed how notoriously modest LDS people (Mormons) are. It's true. And when we go to the temple we make covenants of modesty and chastity and fidelity among others. Which I am increasingly grateful for the more flesh I see. I can't imagine raising my boys down here! Yikes.

So, back to the question - what do I wear? I need some suggestions! I'd rather opt for a long dress than a cocktail dress - I think it's really that dressy. I love that the theme of the event is Old Hollywood. I think it would be so cool to dress all old Hollywood glam and do my hair and stuff that way too. Maybe some long black gloves. BUT. It's so hard to find anything, let alone try to be specific. So I don't know that I'm really going to find anything that fits that theme (I don't think they've been themes that people usually dress to anyway); and frankly, I'll just be happy if I can find something that doesn't come from the mother-of-the-bride section.

18 comments:

Goeb Life said...

Do you have a White House Black Market down there? I LOVE that store. I bought two really pretty, elegant dresses from there last year. It can be pretty reasonable too. Sounds like it may be a good fit for the look you are going for. Good luck finding something. :) Sounds like it will be a blast!

Gavin and Shawna said...

BCBG!!! I've only had a few of these...and I usually hit up nicer end dept stores...Nordstroms/Saks...probably won't go wrong. What a fun thing to look forward to!!

Tennille said...

What about Allyse's? I know they're only in Utah, but maybe someone could check them out for you? They're pretty and modest as well.

www.allyses.com

Heather said...

Ooh fun. Pick me. Pick me. I want to shop with you!

Caitlyn said...

There are modest prom dress websites but most of them said 8 weeks to order...How is your mom's sewing, she could copy them. There were only a few that were really great. Good luck! Laurie

Laurie said...

Sorry it was me. L

SuburbiaMom said...

How fun! Here are some websites with a great selection of modest dresses (you'll have to check with them on how fast shipping is):

www.ebay.com (do a search for "modest prom")

http://www.eternitygowns.com/evening.php

http://www.aformalchoice.com/bridesmaids1.htm

http://greatlengthsshorts.com/shopping/category.ihtml?category=formal

http://www.latterdaybride.com/modest-prom-dresses.php?pg=2&style=24

http://www.beautifullymodest.com/store/prom-dresses/p=3

Good luck--you would look gorgeous in anything!

Marci said...

Like I need an excuse to spend more time shopping on the internet :)

www.BlueVelvetVintage.com has some good Hollywood looking dresses, but would mostly need alterations (are you a seamstress?)or a wrap. They also have your long, black gloves you talked about.

Whatever you end up with, we want pictures! Church is about as dressy as I've been in the last few years, so it'll be cool to see you get all gussied up!

Stefanie Miller said...

I don't have any ideas for where to get something fancy, I just wanted to express my confidence that you will find something perfect and look stunning, and request that you post pictures!

Melanie said...

Honestly - try the department stores. They also can have some amazing deals. Im only benefiting from this recesssion. Next tip. I wore a black cowl neck sweater and Black pants to Jed's formal christmas party but then dressed it up with a lot of bling. I bought 4 huge diamond braclets and a huge pearl necklace. Then I had on some killer heels. The best part - I returned all the jewelry after the event. And you always need a great pair of heels so keep those. The sleek black outfit with the bling I thought looked sophisticated (not at all like a prom dress). Then I had a really dramatic hairdo. I had many complimants.

LuAnn said...

I'd probably try the biggest Nordstrom in Miami, which probably has a Saks nearby. I know the big ones here have a huge dress department. JCrew's website has a lot of dresses. Modest dresses will be sparce at both of these but the one modest dress there might be the one. I also like the website styleobserver.com...you could try searching Black Tie to see what some of the latest styles are. They recently had a vintage post as well.

sarah hyde said...

let's ditch the kids and go dress shopping!!!

Chadlee said...

Try shabbyapple.com. They have a line of modest eveningowns called Shabby Soiree. I think they're more cocktail style (short), though. Good luck!

Melanie said...

So you have got me curious and I have been looking on some of the websites posted and found this pretty number - good price
http://greatlengthsshorts.com/shopping/item.ihtml?prod_id=361

Adrienne said...

I agree with Goeb Life. The best two dresses I own are White House Black Market dresses. And I just got their catalogue and the cover dress is awesome (Plaid silk taffeta however it's a cocktail length). I always take the strapless dresses and buy an awesome silk blouse to go under and no one can tell they are two separate pieces. Or if they have a Zara there, you really can't go wrong with something from there. I'd even try H&M...

Jenilee said...

Sorry, I am not much help in the dress dept. Sounds like so much fun. You are going to look gorgeous in whatever you find. Good luck.

Julie said...

How fun!!!!

It was also awesome to read all the comments. I'm so not a shopper but cool to know so many people are!!!!

nyclizzie said...

Jen, I just had a similar predicament and Nordstrom RACK was my salvation! They have great dresses for great prices. In particular, if you want a stunning dress, Tadashi usually has some in their collection that are "modest" but classy and stylish. I think Tadashi has a website and once in a while you will find them on the racks at Nordstrom Rack. I wasn't lucky enough to find the right one for me, but I got a great dress that I loved. Let me know how it goes! Dressing up is so much fun and we don't do it nearly often enough. (I had a blogpost about this in early December.) xoxo