tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7024898625983696302.post3423670286630351106..comments2024-02-14T22:09:01.766-06:00Comments on The Isoms: StumpedJen Ihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00145420899704834956noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7024898625983696302.post-18051243292273180502012-09-27T21:56:52.876-05:002012-09-27T21:56:52.876-05:00sorry, i messed up my address. it's thebrownf...sorry, i messed up my address. it's thebrownfaminaz dot blogspot dot com. The Brown Familyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09997362736725783419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7024898625983696302.post-68061220434058897652012-09-27T21:55:53.723-05:002012-09-27T21:55:53.723-05:00I hope this isn't weird, but I stumbled upon y...I hope this isn't weird, but I stumbled upon your blog from Kimi's blog. I have been a longtime friend of Andrew's and now Kimi's. This post caught my attention because 3 of my best friends moved to Colorado Springs a year ago. Their husbands all bought into dental practices there. They love it so far. They have strong wards, good neighborhoods, and their kids have made good friends. They spend a lot of time outdoors and enjoying the weather and beautiful scenery. I don't know which choice you should make, but if you do go to Colorado Springs I can give you some insight into which neighborhoods they live in. They are in Cordera and Wolf Ranch. They would be fantastic friends for you to meet. My blog address is therbrownfaminaz dot blogspot dot com. You can comment there if you want more info. Good luck making your decision!The Brown Familyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09997362736725783419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7024898625983696302.post-28954444937471830292012-09-26T12:17:29.387-05:002012-09-26T12:17:29.387-05:00When we first moved to NY it was going to be for &...When we first moved to NY it was going to be for "2-3 years" so Rick could get ahead in his career. That was 14 years ago.<br /><br />After 5 years in Brooklyn, 8 in Westchester and now a year in CT, I cannot imagine living anywhere else We have a great life. Rick is happy in his job and travels less than he used to - he even takes Fridays off through the summer. We have a nice house, we can provide well for our kids and we love the neighborhood and ward we are in.<br /><br />That said, anytime there's a baby blessing, or baptism, missionary farewell, or big family event I am sad not to be there. I wish my kids knew their Grandparents and cousins more. I sometimes wish I had family help (although less and less as the kids get bigger). Also, Rick does still work long hours here - he leaves before any of us are up and gets home after the kids are in bed.<br /><br />There are benefits and disadvantages to living anywhere. I believe that you make the life you want to live wherever you are. <br />Either way though - you can't really go wrong with your two choices :)Taniahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09224119868003073980noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7024898625983696302.post-16713850613782792542012-09-26T12:13:34.545-05:002012-09-26T12:13:34.545-05:00This comment has been removed by the author.Taniahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09224119868003073980noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7024898625983696302.post-58899078089597561272012-09-22T10:08:21.367-05:002012-09-22T10:08:21.367-05:00I agree with Lindsey- go with what you need now bo...I agree with Lindsey- go with what you need now both are great choices and it's time to splurge on your needs. lizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01079756058366447255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7024898625983696302.post-78495248184408441082012-09-22T10:06:55.975-05:002012-09-22T10:06:55.975-05:00I meant 'being too smothered did not apply&quo...I meant 'being too smothered did not apply". lizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01079756058366447255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7024898625983696302.post-32697803471063887752012-09-22T10:06:03.534-05:002012-09-22T10:06:03.534-05:00We had a hard time making decisions like this, too...We had a hard time making decisions like this, too. I have to tell you I had reservations about coming back to AZ where both of our families are, but seeing my kids interact with their cousins and relatives on a regular basis made my heart sing and nothing can compare to that. It wasn't suffocating when we came back and the worries I had of being too smothered did apply. You have 4 small kids- anywhere you live and no matter what kind of hours he works you will never regret living near family to get the kind of love and support and relationships a family offers. Plus, you don't have to commit to it for life- he could get another job later or you could move again later if it's not what you like. I just know the lonesome mom situation too well and you need support. Good luck! Either decision is great.<br />lizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01079756058366447255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7024898625983696302.post-26793096650232537162012-09-21T21:20:39.283-05:002012-09-21T21:20:39.283-05:00Tough choice! I just know that whenever you post ...Tough choice! I just know that whenever you post about going to Utah for Christmas or during the summer, you are so psyched. If you want Utah, and you have unity with Ryan and feel spiritually led to be there, go for it - there is an offer. After five years of training and going through essentially 3 matches of med school, residency, and fellowship, we get used to sacrificing what we hope for. Now may be your best chance to live there, so if you want it, take it.<br /><br />That being said, the CO job sounds great, too, and I have faith the right house will present itself in time. If you go there, and it doesn't sit right, you can always go somewhere else. Praying for you two and the decision. Lindseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15938140778847773019noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7024898625983696302.post-35768251856711308532012-09-21T18:05:25.557-05:002012-09-21T18:05:25.557-05:00I agree with Colorado. More able to see family th...I agree with Colorado. More able to see family than living in Florida, but still not having to grow up in their shadows or vice versa.SuburbiaMomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16407487328564873575noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7024898625983696302.post-30538864448768892492012-09-21T16:10:04.650-05:002012-09-21T16:10:04.650-05:00I'm going to say that all in all, it's rea...I'm going to say that all in all, it's really nice to have a husband with a job that doesn't require so much of him. Yes, family can make up for the deficit, but it's still not the same. <br />Good luck with your decision! <br /><br /><br /><br />Allyshahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10638969631863483061noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7024898625983696302.post-55251128366392530112012-09-21T15:35:14.306-05:002012-09-21T15:35:14.306-05:00 Once the decision is made, you can MAKE it the ri... Once the decision is made, you can MAKE it the right decision!<br /><br />xoxocyhAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7024898625983696302.post-62422810554891147192012-09-21T14:15:49.807-05:002012-09-21T14:15:49.807-05:00Colorado. Still pretty close to family, but it...Colorado. Still pretty close to family, but it's not Utah. :) I don't hate Utah, but after being away and then moving back, I realized how much I liked coming back for vacations and calling somewhere else home.Mumsyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17092184516428832757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7024898625983696302.post-31454450329257626122012-09-21T11:57:13.447-05:002012-09-21T11:57:13.447-05:00Also since you'll be there a long time you'...Also since you'll be there a long time you'll make friends. My guess is it won't be like Miami. Plus you can go home like 5 times a year easy. <br /><br />If we were in your shoes we'd be in CO.LuAnnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03068175387551988436noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7024898625983696302.post-72340104555221724142012-09-21T11:01:29.409-05:002012-09-21T11:01:29.409-05:00Jen, I hate Washington, DC. In fact I am now cryi...Jen, I hate Washington, DC. In fact I am now crying because it hurts to face it sometimes. I am lonely and I think having Simon in school is making it worse. People are too busy here. I won't get in to it. But it has been 2 years and I have found that (with enough therapy) I can love my life, but hate this place. You will develop relationships that will be meaningful. I have found that being in a place where Jeff feels satisfied is critical. He is ambitious. Additionally, DC is much better for my boys due to schools. I feel like Jeff can excel here and so can I. On the other side of the coin...as Jeff has been uber committed to being satisfied and excelling at work, as we age he is realizing that maybe that isn't everything. I think that you have 2 great options and perhaps neither of them are wrong. Both great choices. But I get how choices are both a blessing and a curse. <br /><br />With regard to MN, Jeff is there now and says the skyways are overrated anyway. :) Blessing for you, perhaps, that at least 1 choice was eliminated for you! I love you! LuAnnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03068175387551988436noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7024898625983696302.post-56269516081839190752012-09-21T10:07:27.311-05:002012-09-21T10:07:27.311-05:00I ADORE CO Springs. I would live there in a heart...I ADORE CO Springs. I would live there in a heartbeat. But I spent a lot of my growing up period in CO, and it was a nice, easy, outdoorsy place. My parents enjoyed being far enough away from family that they weren't there for everything, but close enough to drive for the big things. The church is strong, the people are friendly and it's beautiful there. While you don't have to do the job, it's still important for him to enjoy what he's doing. Good luck!Safirehttp://www.waterfalling-up.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7024898625983696302.post-3497757698665688552012-09-21T09:15:15.864-05:002012-09-21T09:15:15.864-05:00I don't know if this helps or not, but here...I don't know if this helps or not, but here's my two cents. I did the crazy hours (like 80-100hrs a week for 9-10 months of the year) for 8 years. By the end of eight years, we decided it was much more important to have a job Adam truly enjoyed doing and could still have time for us in a happy mood. We were prepared to move out of the country and cut his pay almost in half to accomplish it. It has been SO worth it for us to have Adam happy and around more. This phase with the kids really needs two parents that are there not only emotionally, but physically. It's made the biggest difference for our family. <br /><br />That being said, there is a magic to having cousins super close. But Colorado is just an 8-10 hr drive or a super short plane ride to Utah. <br /><br />At the end of the day, my only advice would be to see if you can go to the temple together and just think about it. If both choices leave you feeling good, then know either choice will be a good one for your family. Sometimes it really sucks being the grown up. Good luck!!!Spar-Mar Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14239460134617877603noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7024898625983696302.post-54288308429896222092012-09-20T21:18:31.593-05:002012-09-20T21:18:31.593-05:00Also, I am SHOCKED that you are considering any ot...Also, I am SHOCKED that you are considering any other place when SLC is an option! :)AnnaMariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11153761681352587361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7024898625983696302.post-53485160205986703052012-09-20T21:15:13.903-05:002012-09-20T21:15:13.903-05:00WOW! Yay, you're at that point. I'm glad w...WOW! Yay, you're at that point. I'm glad we didn't have that sort of pressure. And I'm happy that MN is number 2! :)<br /><br />My 2 cents. After the craziness of med school and especially residency, the loneliness and doing it yourself...I think the job is SO important. Having Tyler home more quickly after his shift is KEY, not having him running off to meetings on his days off is great, and seeing him happy and enthusiastic about his job is so satisfying. I know EM is a little different, so take what applies to you guys, but I would much rather have Tyler be happy in his job. I can always make new friends.<br /><br />That being said: I do have a brother here, and my SIL is essential, and it's heaven having cousins close. If you're in Colorado, how often would you see your family in Utah? If you're in Utah, and everyone has busy lives (not summer break, not there for a week on vacation), how often will you see them? Is there a lot of drama that living there would get you involved? Haha, just thinking of my own family (both mine and Tyler's, actually). <br /><br />Good luck! I wish MN were still in the running, but maybe if you end up in Utah, we'll see you someday! AnnaMariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11153761681352587361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7024898625983696302.post-41144386006272616272012-09-20T20:25:00.218-05:002012-09-20T20:25:00.218-05:00Ok...you guys are awesome for getting down to 2 pr...Ok...you guys are awesome for getting down to 2 practices...that's impressive to start with. Here are my 2 cents:<br />1) I know after moving all around and being in many different places...some we have grown to love and some we have endured...when the time comes to settle...we want to be where we LOVE to be...which, for us, also happens to be with family. San Diego, like Utah for you, is not the wisest of choices economically and whatnot...but it will be enough...it will be great and after all the years of sacrifice...don't you deserve to have the payout happen?!<br />2) The reality is...his job can change. People leave, new people come...things happen...but if you are somewhere you love (because of family and location)...then his job function will just pan out. What I am saying is...don't make your decision based on the job...because that is not set in stone...it can/will/does change.<br />3) When you are old...if you are in UT, you won't have to move to be by your kids...my guess is that is where they will be =)<br />4) But...Colorado is nice too...it was dry because that state was one of the many that are/were in a crazy drought.<br />OK....good luck...we will be looking to you guys soon for advice on what to do with real life with a real practice=)Gavin and Shawnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13645934776467915079noreply@blogger.com